Couples Counselling
Nanaimo • Squamish • Online Counselling
Individual & Couples Counselling | Workshops & Intensives
Interruption of the Cycle
This isn’t a bad relationship; it’s a bad cycle.
The relationship likely began as loving, close, safe, and hopeful: however, over time, conversations may have stopped feeling safe, leading to a push-pull dynamic where one partner reaches for reassurance while the other retreats or shuts down. This isn’t necessarily a sign of incompatibility, it’s a sign that you are stuck in a cycle that isn’t working.
Who Is Couples Therapy For?
If you love each other deeply but feel exhausted, misunderstood, or alone in the relationship, therapy can help you make sense of the distance.
Our clinicians help couples navigate:
- Repetitive Conflict: Having the same fight in different forms.
- Communication Breakdown: Dynamics involving defensiveness, blame, passive-aggressiveness, or shut-down.
- Emotional Distance: Feeling far apart despite caring deeply for one another.
- Strained Boundaries: Addressing power struggles, resentment, and lack of accountability.
- Trust & Stability: Rebuilding the relationship after trust has been compromised.
- Understanding: Couples therapy isn't just for crisis, it's also for couples wanting to deepen an already strong connection.
Our Clinical Approach
We don’t choose sides or teach you to avoid conflict. Instead, we help you understand what is actually happening between you and learn skills to navigate difficult conversations by utilizing three core evidence-based frameworks:
We identify the emotional and behavioural cycle pulling you apart and address the deeper attachment needs driving the conflict to restore safety and responsiveness.
We address dynamics like power struggles, boundary issues, contempt, shame, and resentment; helping both partners move out of dysfunctional patterns and into mature, respectful relating.
We provide a practical structure to strengthen communication and manage conflict without escalation or distance through small, consistent changes.
Scope of Service & Investment
Couples therapy is designed to interrupt patterns and rebuild emotional safety so both individuals can stay connected without losing themselves.
Format
Sessions are available in-office at our Nanaimo location or through secure online video (Zoom or Jane App) for couples across Canada.
Investment
Rates typically range from $165 – $225 per hour, depending on the specific clinician.
Goals
Our focus is on repair, clarity, and creating a way of relating that actually works for the long term.
Meet Our Couples Counselling Team
FOUNDER / THERAPIST
- Locations: Nanaimo, Online
- Specialities: Enmeshment Recovery, Sex/Porn Addiction, Process Addictions, PTSD, Complex PTSD, Mood Disorders
Important Boundaries
- Non-Crisis Support: Stone Reef is not a crisis facility. If you are experiencing dangerous relationship dynamics or boundary violations that feel unsafe, please contact local emergency services immediately.
- Asynchronous Support: While we offer text-based coaching check-ins for individual recovery, couples therapy requires the real-time presence of both partners and the therapist to safely navigate relational dynamics.
Take the Next Step
If you’re tired of repeating the same fights or feel yourselves slowly drifting apart, there is a way forward that doesn’t require giving up or giving in.
